Often i found that these two can be at cross purposes. If your innate desire is to be liked and often leading others can cause you to be disliked. I found that those who can lead and be liked are usually great communicators. And great communicators, of whom I am forever studying, always set their expectations clearly. And have fun along the way. They may do a lot more things but if you can let people have fun while accomplishing the common goals, then you are doing fine..
I always take the time to build networks first before I start to define how we can potentially work together. There may be times you may not get what you want but atleast you would have had some pleasurable exchanges, which would have been drudgerous and boring otherwise.